This is going to be awkward for two reasons:
1) The first rule of blogging is not to talk about blogging.
2) I do not possess the language to discuss things like HTML or affiliates in an articulate or graceful manner.
Here’s my best try:
Blogging is hard. It’s hard to come up with intelligent content, maintain dialogue, keep up with technical details, and fork over the money for something you are often not paid to do–all while taking care of a family. Blogging is hard.
Blogging is easy. You can work from home, not work at all, stop at any time, engage in a community of great people, and it usually means you’re doing something you want to do. Blogging is easy.
For the past three years I have tried my hardest to maintain that I am a writer, not a blogger. I do not do giveaways, sponsored posts, or decorate my site with a lot of ads. I also do not tweet or facebook or instagram promotional products. My blogging mantra has always been to keep the focus on what I love: writing.
Here is the problem: blogging can be expensive. It doesn’t have to be, but when you pay for your own domain and your own hosting, it comes out to a few hundred dollars a year. Add in technical work because your site is crashing every five minutes and the bills start to pile up.
Here is the truth: I am not in this for the money. That would be pretty stupid. I am in this to write. But a girl’s also gotta get paid.
Over the past few months, I’ve lost years of my life trying to fix some issues that have caused this site to be slow and troublesome. It has been unpleasant. There were times I cursed the day I started this blog and cursed myself for being so web illiterate. I yelled at my kid, was impatient with Austin, and lost valuable time because I was too busy on the phone with tech support.
During this time of yelling, I came to two very important conclusions: 1) I need to stop stress-eating dairy and 2) Something has to change.
The first thing I did was consult other bloggers I trust. I felt like I was in blogging kindergarten. You should see some of the emails I sent. “WHAT IS A SIDEBAR?!”
My friend Ashlee was kind enough to explain the word affiliate; a fancy way of saying that if someone clicks on something from your blog and then buys it, you get a cut. Usually it’s a few dollars or a few pennies. She was very nice. She said: I would love to blog without doing any of this crap, but just like you, I get grumpy writing for free and I also have a hard time justifying the amount of time I spend on my blog when there are zero dollars involved.
You’ll notice some ads on the sidebar. They are called affiliates. You probably know this because you’re not an idiot.
I will also be linking to products I love in Friday Snacks. This always feels kind of sneaky, which is why I’m bringing it up. I want to make it clear that no one is paying me to recommend a certain kind of humidifier or men’s trousers. Instead, if I buy or am given something I love and use, I will let you know about it. Sometimes I’ll make a small profit (example: if I can find the humidifier we use and love on Amazon, link to it, and then you also buy it) and other times I will not (example: linking to a friend’s etsy shop).
I know it’s confusing. When I’m reading a blog and it promotes a product, I always have the same question: Are you for real? How do I know the pacifier clip you are love drunk about is a great pacifier clip or just one you were paid to promote? (For the record I actually did order this pacifier clip off Etsy the other day and I love it. No one is paying me to say it).
The bottom line is that you’ll have to trust me.
I will not be doing sponsored posts or giveaways.
A few other blogging changes:
In an effort to continue focus on writing, I am moving personal posts about my kids to their own separate sites. An online scrapbook so no one has to use scissors or enter craft stores. For now they will remain public. You can access them here:
There will also be some cosmetic changes, most of them will happen slowly and painfully because I’ve only recently graduated to blogging first grade. So you can look forward to that.
Blogging is always changing. Writing evolves, graphics evolve, the way we interact online evolves. Most of all, people evolve.
This I know for sure: I will hold fast to my blogging mantra. This blog has and always will be about writing, about honesty, and about community.
(Only now there will be an occasional link to incredible leggings).
Thanks for making it this far.